“Do not accidentally make stability the goal. Balance is more important than stability.”

Ed Catmull, Creativity Inc

Learning to fly is similar to balancing a stone stack. 

When people are flying, they are playing big in the world by being themselves. They are somehow finding a fit between their passions, their sense of belonging, and their sense of possibility.

It feels like they have found their balance.

Over the last 20 years, I have coached hundreds of leaders and although each had different backgrounds, skills and experience as well as different challenges and dilemmas, somehow what helped them to ultimately fly was exactly the same.

I think that the art of flying is directly linked to the art of finding the balance between five key ‘stones’ – each one essential and each one worth focussing on in its own right.

 When we spend time with each one and learn how to place them together in our unique way, we create the energy we need to find our balance, stand tall and fly.

We will each find balance in our own unique way, it is our difference that holds the key.

The trick to flying is to continue to find our sense of balance and maintain it as we change and grow

Being in balance, doesn’t mean being still, we are evolving all the time and so are our children. It means making constant small adjustments to keep re-finding our balance, and as we do this, we will be building courage and confidence. The younger we learn some of the tools, the easier we will find learning to fly as we grow up.


We have been using our stone stack approach with leaders as well as in schools and with parents.

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